Hi Thomas. Thanks for reading my story. The Perfect Blue is one of the pieces I felt good about and still do. It's very honest, or at least as honest as I can make it. After many years (ten, now) of reflection, I have come to think that my ex has some very deep problems that he will likely never face head on, as well as some issues that aren't easily addressed, period. (Possibly high functioning neurodivergent?) He wasn't willing to do counseling, which I asked for about ten years into our marriage. About ten years later, we attended one session, during which he expressed no interest in or willingness to work on the marriage. As you probably know, only one person cannot save a marriage. The reason we both stuck it out as long as we did is that we both came from families of divorce and didn't want that for our kids. They were adults when we finally separated. -- Since our divorce, he has married someone who is very career oriented, and they don't spend much time together. I guess it works for them. -- So, on another topic, do you have an interest in Albuquerque? Or do you have friends who are considering moving here? When I was looking for a new place I wanted a city with a lot of Meetup.com groups so it would be easy to meet people. Albuquerque has many negatives, as do many large cities. But there is a warmth here that is welcoming, the food is interesting and always changing, and there is a vibrant arts community. It's also incredibly easy to get outdoors in areas where you will encounter few people, and the city has a reasonable cost of living as well. Albuquerque and northern New Mexico is seriously underrated as an outdoor mecca, in my opinion. It's not my forever place, but It's a fine place to hang out while I figure out where I want to go next. Thanks again for reading my work.