I am so incredibly unimpressed by the dating pool of eligible cis-hetero men in my age group that I have stopped dating entirely. I am as careful as I can be, and have had to wade through knee-deep shit since the moment I began to date after my marriage ended. If my ex is the cream of the crop, God help middle-aged women. In contrast, I meet incredible women everywhere I go: friendly, emotionally intelligent, educated, compassionate, adventurous, and KIND. But dating women isn't in my wheelhouse, and I'm lonely in an existential kind of way, for something that apparently does not exist.