I'm sorry to hear of your negative experience. For me, it was family that was the biggest disappointment. Reactions ranged from my sisters (worse things can happen - there are children dying of starvation in Africa), to my brother's (I never liked him), to my adult children (going into hiding and allowing me to handle it on my own for months). Ironically, the biggest "family" supporter was my ex, who at least called to check on me occasionally, until my son said we were having too much contact. What every person needs when going through a traumatic divorce is that one person who cares, is consistent, and that we know will listen. My best friend called me every day for at least a month, and came to visit me in another state, twice. I hope you have a friend like that.