Ten Habits That Will Make You a Better Friend
The best relationships have a LOT of room to accommodate the many challenges in our lives.
1. Listen more. I think we all know whether we’re the talker or the sounding-board in our friendships, but communication should never be a one-way street. The best relationships work both ways, with a LOT of room to accommodate the many challenges in our lives. When you can listen, listen; when you need to spill, let it rip.
Good friendships have this kind of flexibility built in, often after years of committed cultivation — but, in truth, we could all be better listeners. First, we need to distinguish the difference between listening to respond and listening to comprehend and understand the meaning beneath the words. But, remember, it’s hard to listen when you’re doing all the talking, so …
2. Talk less. If you are the one who always does the talking, ask yourself why? Do you think that what you have to say is more important, the most important, or the only important thing? Get over yourself. Recognize that it’s okay to ask for compassion or understanding, but it’s not okay to commandeer every conversation and heap a ton of stress on your “friend,” who may be going through problems of his or her own. Being a good communicator and a good friend is all about balance…
