Thank you so much for taking the time to respond, Georgina. It sounds like you had a rough time as well. I would do it again to get my boys, but I would do it differently. I was so afraid of a failed marriage, and did everything to prevent it, but it failed anyway. Yes, I think he is without doubt a narcissist, one who was raised by a narcissist, with two grandfathers who are narcissists. I don't think he had a chance. But then again, he didn't fight it very hard. I have a bright future with my dogs and friends and a thriving writing career. Thanks for your good wishes! And I wish the same for you.