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You Be You — Just Don’t Be Mean
One Reason More Than Half of Us Might Be Single
I’m a full-time fiction writer, and sometimes I write a quick Medium piece like this as a warm-up to wake up my brain. Today’s piece was inspired by reading three quick articles in succession, each on the topic of why a particular guy she dated was a loser. Although written by a popular writer, each piece was insulting, lacking in empathy, and not particularly funny. So, why the 1K plus likes? I don’t like mean-spirited people. I’ll say that again: I don’t like mean-spirited people.
Sure, online dating is hard. We all know that. But Any kind of dating these days seems to be particularly hard, which is maybe why 30% of adults are single, and of those single people, 57% are not interested in dating.
I find this very sad, because I believe humans are built for connection. Throughout hundreds of thousands of years of evolution, we’d never have survived alone. I’m also sad because I’m one of these single adult humans who isn’t dating.
After seven years as a single person, I don’t want to date anymore: I just would like to magically meet my person getting coffee or browsing my local bookstore, and then proceed to build a fantastic life together in a secure relationships that feels rewarding to both of us. (And our dogs have to get along.)
